This is Me – 8 of 52

This week is all about me.

Kane and Mav are home in Edmonton with Daddy, while I am in Los Angeles with a group of photographers learning more about documentary photography with the support of the Momenta staff. We are each paired with nonprofit organizations in LA where we shoot and then each day we sit down with one of the Momenta mentors and review all of our scary SOOC (straight out of camera) images.

This week I am shooting families at Ronald McDonald House Charities Southern California thanks to the hard work and connections of a number of key people, but also because I spoke up and recognized how I was feeling and what I needed.

This week I am also in the middle of listening to Brene Brown’s book, Rising Strong. Brene is “my people”. She doesn’t know it yet. Maybe one day she will. Every one of her books (others include Daring Greatly and Braving the Wilderness) have been just what I needed, when I needed it.

In Rising Strong, Brene writes, “When I see people stand fully in their truth, or when I see someone fall down, get back up, and say, “Damn. That really hurt, but this is important to me and I’m going in again”—my gut reaction is, “What a badass.”

Brene Brown is a badass. 
I want to be a badass.
Sometimes to be a badass you have to focus on you.
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Shot with a Leica M240 Digital Rangefinder Camera I am test driving and pretending to know how to use!

MANIFESTO OF THE BRAVE AND BROKENHEARTED
There is no greater threat to the critics
and cynics and fearmongers 
than those of us who are willing to fall 
because we have learned how to rise. 
With skinned knees and bruised hearts; 
we choose owning our stories of struggle, 
over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.
When we deny our stories, they define us. 
When we run from struggle, we are never free. 
So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye. 
We will not be characters in our stories. 
Not villains, not victims, not even heroes. 
We are the authors of our lives.
We write our own daring endings.
We craft love from heartbreak,
compassion from shame, 
grace from disappointment,
courage from failure. 
Showing up is our power. 
Story is our way home. Truth is our song. 
We are the brave and brokenhearted. 
We are rising strong.
                                                                    – Brene Brown

 

One last Brene tidbit to leave you with…

The opposite of recognizing that we’re feeling something is denying our emotions. The opposite of being curious is disengaging. When we deny our stories and disengage from tough emotions, they don’t go away; instead, they own us, they define us. Our job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending—to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think, Yes. This is what happened. This is my truth. And I will choose how this story ends.

This week I am busy writing my story. I am putting myself out there. I am recognizing what I need and asking for what I want. I am sharing my own story. I am choosing my ending. And, hopefully, I am others to rise strong by helping others to tell their story with images.

And when I go home I will be present for all three of my boys, to help them wrestle tough emotions and find their truth.

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